Update-1.27.08

Casey called on Friday night. He called around 6:30, but I didn't have a chance to call him back 'til just before 9. It was good to talk with him - he made me laugh a lot and we had plenty to talk about. I was a bit annoyed that at 9:00 he asked me out for THAT night ("well, what are you up to tonight?"). I told him that I was already in my pajamas (to which he replied "well...that could be sexy" - which kind of grossed me out - more on that later) so that night was out of the question. We agreed to do dinner on Sunday night, but I think I'm just not feeling the attraction anymore, hence why that comment grossed me out.

All weekend, I've not been looking forward to the date - it almost seems like more of an inconvenience. I feel terrible having these thoughts, but I think it's indicative that I'm just not that into him.

So he's picking me up at 7 tonight and we're going to a tapas restaurant. I wish I was more excited about the evening, I'm just not.

One of my college roommates instituted the "three date rule" when she was dating around. If she wasn't sure about a guy, she went on 3 dates with him to find out for sure. I have a bad feeling that after tonight, I'll be asking everyone for easy ways
to let him down.

On a related note, I had the "dial it down" talk with Casey on Friday night. I said that I'd just gotten out of a relationship, and I was enjoying getting to know him and hoping we could continue to do so, but that we could take our time in getting to know each other. He asked me if that was me putting him into the "friend zone." I told him it wasn't - because in my mind it was the truth. But now, after more thought, I think it's going in that direction.

He's going to be bummed - but we've only gone out on two dates and been talking for 3weeks. I do feel kind of bad that his birthday is next weekend, though. If I decide after tonight that I'm not that into him, do I need to wait until after his birthday to have "the talk?" And, I can do it over the phone, right??

Advice please!!