Those are my new mantras - or, at least I'm trying to make them my new mantras as I re-enter the world of dating.
Yesterday a friend and I were emailing and she convinced me that just because one of my matches specified in his profile that he's allergic to cats (I have one, just ONE, cat - yes, I'm a single woman with a cat...a potential landmine in the world of dating...), that I am not allowed to close him. I must keep an open mind - he could be the love of my life. She also cited a specific example of a couple we both know in which one person is allergic to cats and the other gave up the feline friend when they moved in together - they're now married. Good point - I realized I was being crazy so I responded to his note on the site last night. He answered the questions I sent to him and my hesitation continues with his answer to one of the questions...
(Background: as part of the guided communication process on the site, you exchange 1st round questions - 4 of them - that are multiple choice.)
To my question "If you were taken by your date to a party where you knew no one, would you:
a) stay close to my date, letting him/her introduce me
b) find a spot at the back bar and relax alone, letting him/her work the room
c) strike out on my own, introducing myself and making friends
d) I would ask my partner if I could skip this particular event.
This guy picked A - which I find unappealing. I've dated "that guy" who isn't outgoing in social settings in the past and it drove me nuts. I find it incredibly attractive when a person has the confidence and social skills to strike out on their own and meet people. But at least he didn't pick the last option. Oh... what to do, what to do? Feel free to weigh in with your comments...
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Update: per direction from my brother-in-law, C, I closed the allergy guy. When C spelled it out for me clearly, it made so much sense: allergy guy specified that he's allergic to cats because it's a deal-breaker for him. He would equate spending time at my house with being miserable.
'Nuff said. Closed. Sorry buddy, but wise brother-in-law has an excellent point. And I need to ease off on the over-analysis! Sheesh!
It takes an allergic man know another. Besides, sometimes allergies can lead to life-threatening throat swelling. He could very well have that. Probably reason enough to put it on a profile.
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