As I navigate what feels like Cupid's minefield with Za Za Zu like an oasis on the other side, I have to ask: At what point does having an open mind and giving everything a try become settling? For example, am I *supposed* to give my number out to (and subsequently go out with) every guy who asks for it? (Not that it happens that often, but just as an example...)
Of all people to be discussing my love life with, I was chatting with my dad about the cat allergy/shy guy. I explained to him how the dating site works and how people exchange questions. Though he's been happily married for nearly FORTY years, he posed a fair question: Aren't those questions part of the screening process? And if someone answers a question in a way you don't like, and if you ignore your displeasure and the yellow flag associated with it, aren't you essentially devaluing that part of the screening process?
How do I know if/when I'm being picky and how do I know when I'm saying no because it's not the right match for me?
Hmmmm... I don't know. What do you think?
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According to Carrie Bradshaw on Sex & The City (Season 5, episodes 74 & 75), "za za zu" is synonymous with the unforgettable feeling of butterflies in your stomach when you meet someone you're attracted to. It's the fireworks, it's the sparks, it's the tingling in your toes. After ending a two year relationship, and giving myself time to heal, I'm ready to move on... ready to resume my adventures in dating. I'm a woman on a mission for Za Za Zu!
Starting Out
December 10, 2007
I've been thinking of doing this for weeks and the time has come! I'm less than 2 months from my 30th birthday and I'm on board with that whole "why not?" mentality.
After all, I've put myself "out there" with the dating site (I had semi-good luck with a different dating site several years ago), and keeping a record of my adventures seems like a fun idea.
Each morning, when I log on to email, I'm greeted with a batch of new men who have been delivered to my Inbox. It's funny - it's like a parade of suitors shows up at my door each day and I get to say "you can stay, you can go, you can stay, you can go..."
I'm trying to be open minded and keep up the correspondence with those who aren't necessarily "my type."I've already been out on 2 dates through the site. I'll detail those in my first two postings - after all, these guys bought me dinner and/or drinks, so they at least deserve their own post! :)
It's also very important to note that I'm changing names and leaving out identifying details - overall these seem like good guys, and I don't want anyone getting hurt.
I've been thinking of doing this for weeks and the time has come! I'm less than 2 months from my 30th birthday and I'm on board with that whole "why not?" mentality.
After all, I've put myself "out there" with the dating site (I had semi-good luck with a different dating site several years ago), and keeping a record of my adventures seems like a fun idea.
Each morning, when I log on to email, I'm greeted with a batch of new men who have been delivered to my Inbox. It's funny - it's like a parade of suitors shows up at my door each day and I get to say "you can stay, you can go, you can stay, you can go..."
I'm trying to be open minded and keep up the correspondence with those who aren't necessarily "my type."I've already been out on 2 dates through the site. I'll detail those in my first two postings - after all, these guys bought me dinner and/or drinks, so they at least deserve their own post! :)
It's also very important to note that I'm changing names and leaving out identifying details - overall these seem like good guys, and I don't want anyone getting hurt.
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It's Raining Men... Who's Who in Nay's Quest for the Zu?
Tom - met through dating site; lots of banter and conversation, not so much of a spark; made questionable "ass" comments
Eric* - met when I was 16; ran into him while "out" from time to time in past few years; he asked me out after a chance run-in at a coffee shop
Mark* - dated for approx. 2 mos 3 yrs ago; showed up as a match on the dating site; he initiated communication with me; we dated for a year; thought he was The One, was sadly mistaken
Joe* - goes to my dentist; cute; actual meeting is a long-shot (but I'm game!)
Dave* - coworker of close friend; set-up 2 years in the making
Jack* – met through dating site; shy engineer; politely put off his request for a second date (via email); declined second date reqest via email and am hopeful that is the end of it
Brian* – friend of sleazy coworker
Ryan*– met in bar; Text Message King
Casey* – met through dating site; great first date; got creepy with speed of dating progression and icky comments; called it off to his obvious disappointment
Sean* – met through dating site; nice date, but smelled like mildew; never contacted again
Seth* – met through dating site; nice date, no chemistry; never contacted again
Mike* – met through dating site; great first date; vanished from planet
* denotes no longer in contact (and would be floored to hear from him again)
Eric* - met when I was 16; ran into him while "out" from time to time in past few years; he asked me out after a chance run-in at a coffee shop
Mark* - dated for approx. 2 mos 3 yrs ago; showed up as a match on the dating site; he initiated communication with me; we dated for a year; thought he was The One, was sadly mistaken
Joe* - goes to my dentist; cute; actual meeting is a long-shot (but I'm game!)
Dave* - coworker of close friend; set-up 2 years in the making
Jack* – met through dating site; shy engineer; politely put off his request for a second date (via email); declined second date reqest via email and am hopeful that is the end of it
Brian* – friend of sleazy coworker
Ryan*– met in bar; Text Message King
Casey* – met through dating site; great first date; got creepy with speed of dating progression and icky comments; called it off to his obvious disappointment
Sean* – met through dating site; nice date, but smelled like mildew; never contacted again
Seth* – met through dating site; nice date, no chemistry; never contacted again
Mike* – met through dating site; great first date; vanished from planet
* denotes no longer in contact (and would be floored to hear from him again)
2 comments:
That is the question.
Ugh..so frustrating.
Perhaps I should just plan to enjoy the companionship of my cat for the next 10 years and then grow old in the company of (and under the care of) my beautiful, charismatic niece.
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