What the heck is with these guys? Do they not understand what a crazy, ridiculously busy time of year this is?
I've had not one but TWO guys who I was kind of interested in close me out this week, citing that I hadn't "responded to their request to communicate." True, the next communication was in my court and it had been over a week, but jeez. No use of the "nudge" - the Site's signal for "Hey, I'm still interested in communicating with you." Just CLOSED - communication ended.
With both of these guys, I was due to send the initial email and I hadn't had the time to sit down and write something thoughtful, yet witty. Maybe I'm over thinking the time and effort I should be putting into the emails. Perhaps I should just fire off a quick message without putting too much thought into it, I should not worry about making sure that my emails are the appropriate mix of inquisitive and interested in the recipient, and interesting reading about what I have going on. A quick, not well-thought-out email is so not me - maybe I need to find a middle ground between the rapid-fire initial email and my overly thought-out "compositions." Perhaps a New Year's Resolution for 2008? ;-)
And an update on the Mike situation from last night's post:
Since this was the first time I've been closed by anyone that I'm interested in continuing communication with, I wasn't sure what happens when you click on the option to send the message to that person (the options are to close the person back or send a final message). When you select to send a final message, I thought you'd get to send a free-form email (perfect for Her Wordiness, here). But no! You can pick only one of several options - ranging from "best of luck with your search" to "I wish you'd reconsider." Crap. So I closed him, no comment, no email, no wishes for Happy Holidays.
So last night's request for advice was pointless - the decision was made for me. Although... it did spark some interesting discussions and debates today with me and my girlfriends.
I can't help it but I'm annoyed with these guys. I think I'm going to put the Site and Search on hold until after the first of the year. Maybe. :)
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Hey, chica. Don't tell anyone, but after doing a few of the First Messages, I created a Word doc that I've been copying and pasting from for the First Messages. Some standard questions that apply to almost any guy (music/ sports interests, how long lived in our city since there are so many transplants, etc) and an abridged bio of me (how long I've lived here, where else I've lived, etc). Writing the First Message is still a pain in the butt, but it's a lot less intimidating with my back-up supply of message fodder. :)
And don't give up!!
-J
I love it, J!! Sneaky - but a stellar idea. I'll give that a shot. That should definitely make the initial email a lot more manageable and a lot less intimidating.
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